We walked down the aisle

We walked down the aisle.

We walked down the aisle

Tomorrow is our wedding anniversary 😀 and I decided to write this poem in honor of my husband and our marriage.

We walked down the aisle
Years ago

That gray morning
Hearts skipped a beat
As we looked into the pools
That were each others’ eyes

“Lawful wedded wife”
“I do”
“For better, for worse”
“In sickness and in health”
“Let not man put asunder”

These words once said
Still true today
Veracity and meaning
Unchanged over the years

Battles fought and won
Babies born and grown
People come and gone
Life marching on

We walked down the aisle
Years ago



A Happy New Year
Is my wish to one and all
Expecting great things


LIFE IN BALANCE-New Year Resolutions or Realistic Goal Setting?

There is nothing magical, spiritually significant, or special about the first day of January except the significance that we ourselves attach to it. I like to remind myself that the Gregorian calendar is man made and was a reform of a previous calendar( the Julian calendar) which was itself a reform of the Roman calendar . There are also in use many different calendars( the lunar calendar, Igbo calendar, Hebrew calendar, the Chinese calendar etc) in use, side by side with the Gregorian. The point I am making is that you do not have to “make new year resolutions” ; you do not have to fall into despair at the end of the year; and you do not have to wait until the first of January to make the changes that you need to make in life.

The first of January is however, a convenient time to set goals, and , the span of a year is a good time to review those goals you set( depending on what those goals are).
Here are a few tips for setting goals and seeing them come to pass:

1. Set goals: This may seem obvious but you have to actually set goals for what you want to accomplish. What does it meant to set goals? This is not mere wishing. For instance saying, “I wish I could lose some weight” is not a goal. It is just that, a wish. At the end of the year, if you do not lose the weight because you never set a goal to do so, don’t be surprised. There are long term goals, eg “I want to sell 10,000 copies of my book by June”. There are short term goals eg “By next week I want to have cleaned out my garage”.

2. Set realistic goals: Only you can know what is realistic to you. For instance, a goal to save 100,000 by the end of the year may be realistic to someone who is a millionaire but not a struggling student. Goals that are too extreme set you up for failure and disappointment. It is better to “underwhelm” 🙂 yourself than overwhelm yourself.

3. Be specific: “I wanna to lose some weight” is different from “I am going to lose 10 lbs in the next 6 months.” Do not be vague. A specific goal is measurable while a nonspecific one is reduced to the level of a mere wish.

4. Make plans to achieve your goals: If you want to lose 10 pounds, join a gym, eat more healthy foods. If you want to change careers you may need to go back to school. If you want a better relationship with God you will need to spend more time in prayer and the Word. If you want to write a book you will need to pick up a pen( or laptop or iPad) and start writing……make a plan

5. Write it down: Written words definitely have more power than when they are just thoughts in your head. Write your goals and look at them everyday. It will keep you on track.

Well, Happy New Year everyone. Be blessed



Christmas comes but once a year,
We get together and have good cheer;
We sit around the table and dine,
Let’s not forget that bottle of wine!

Christmas hits us with a bang!
We shop for ornaments to hang,
Upon our Christmas trees and walls;
We invite all our friends to the ball.

Roast turkey, shrimp scampi,lemon meringue pie,
A sumptuous banquet hits your eye;
You lick your lips and stifle a sigh,
And wish it was all for “me, myself and I”.

But please remember this Christmas day,
Jesus who came to show the right way;
To helpless sinners here on earth,
Through a wondrous virgin birth.

Christmas is not just a time for feasting,
Christmas is not only a time for dining
Christmas is mainly a time for celebrating
That great day Jesus came for the earthlings.

God sent His Son
To earth to us
To live for us
To die for us
To give us hope
Of eternal life
In heaven with Him
At the end of time.



LIFE IN BALANCE- I have a secret

4.Wisdom: Trust God for wisdom to deal with the situation; wisdom for wise counsel; and wisdom for true friends in your time of crisis. Use wisdom to truly know the difference between a big problem and a minor issue that does not need to be talked about.

5.Seek help, not catharsis: Is it better to vent your feelings to your blabber mouth friends; or to talk to a trustworthy person who will not divulge? Is it better to vent your feelings to your well-meaning but overly emotional friends or to talk to an objective pastor, counsellor or mentor? If you need to talk to a medical professional, by all means do so. The point is to seek help, not catharsis.

6. Don’t hang on to the past: After you have “gone through” , go on. Do not let past tragedy, guilt, shame and defeat define you. Do not hang on to your old hurts; do not replay your past mistakes. Do everything you can not to stay in a bitter, stuck, resentful place.

7. Help others with your story: Your past can help others heal, even if it is just to encourage them; to show others that there is light at the end of the tunnel. However, all sharing should be done in wisdom. To help others by using yourself as an example, you have to have successfully “won” whatever “battle” it is you were facing. Do not use “helping others” as an excuse to tell all and sundry about your woes( see previous post).

Have a blessed week!


LIFE IN BALANCE- I have a secret

* I don’t usually do two posts in a day, but unbeknownst to me my last post didn’t post!*

So. We have all been there. You have a problem. It could be a sin. It could be a bad habit. It could be a challenge. It could be the weight of guilt and shame for things that you did or were done to you in the past. Whatever it is, it is hard to deal with. You need someone to talk to. You need help working through the issue or the bitter, hard emotions that come with it. Whom do you talk to? Should you tell anyone at all?
This will help:

1. Talk to God: For starters tell God what your problems are and trust Him for a solution. God is big enough to dissolve your issues into nothingness and give you peace over things of the past. In Christ there is no guilt and shame, no condemnation. Talk to God about your feelings and trust Him to take your pain and turn it into joy.

2 Don’t tell all to all: Do not run from person to person, rehearsing your problems, issues, failures and guilt. Where did we all get the idea that the more we talk about a problem, they better we feel? That is really not true. For starters, that is a sure way to perpetuate the problem. Secondly, you will hear all kinds of different opinions which will confuse you. Third, not everyone has your best interests at heart and some people may purposefully give you wrong advice.

3. Don’t tell nothing to no one: Do not stuff your stuff. Negative emotions buried alive only eat you up inside and come out in negative ways, affecting your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health. If you are in over your head, find a trusted person, who you look up to and talk to them. Everyone needs someone to talk to at certain points in their lives. Seeking help does not mean you are weak. Talking to someone does NOT mean talk to all and sundry.

…..to be continued……


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