CHRISTMAS

Christmas comes but once a year,
We get together and have good cheer;
We sit around the table and dine,
Let’s not forget that bottle of wine!

Christmas hits us with a bang!
We shop for ornaments to hang,
Upon our Christmas trees and walls;
We invite all our friends to the ball.

Roast turkey, shrimp scampi,lemon meringue pie,
A sumptuous banquet hits your eye;
You lick your lips and stifle a sigh,
And wish it was all for “me, myself and I”.

But please remember this Christmas day,
Jesus who came to show the right way;
To helpless sinners here on earth,
Through a wondrous virgin birth.

Christmas is not just a time for feasting,
Christmas is not only a time for dining
Christmas is mainly a time for celebrating
That great day Jesus came for the earthlings.

God sent His Son
To earth to us
To live for us
To die for us
To give us hope
Of eternal life
In heaven with Him
At the end of time.

MERRY CHRISTMAS

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LIFE IN BALANCE- I have a secret

4.Wisdom: Trust God for wisdom to deal with the situation; wisdom for wise counsel; and wisdom for true friends in your time of crisis. Use wisdom to truly know the difference between a big problem and a minor issue that does not need to be talked about.

5.Seek help, not catharsis: Is it better to vent your feelings to your blabber mouth friends; or to talk to a trustworthy person who will not divulge? Is it better to vent your feelings to your well-meaning but overly emotional friends or to talk to an objective pastor, counsellor or mentor? If you need to talk to a medical professional, by all means do so. The point is to seek help, not catharsis.

6. Don’t hang on to the past: After you have “gone through” , go on. Do not let past tragedy, guilt, shame and defeat define you. Do not hang on to your old hurts; do not replay your past mistakes. Do everything you can not to stay in a bitter, stuck, resentful place.

7. Help others with your story: Your past can help others heal, even if it is just to encourage them; to show others that there is light at the end of the tunnel. However, all sharing should be done in wisdom. To help others by using yourself as an example, you have to have successfully “won” whatever “battle” it is you were facing. Do not use “helping others” as an excuse to tell all and sundry about your woes( see previous post).

Have a blessed week!

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LIFE IN BALANCE- I have a secret

* I don’t usually do two posts in a day, but unbeknownst to me my last post didn’t post!*

So. We have all been there. You have a problem. It could be a sin. It could be a bad habit. It could be a challenge. It could be the weight of guilt and shame for things that you did or were done to you in the past. Whatever it is, it is hard to deal with. You need someone to talk to. You need help working through the issue or the bitter, hard emotions that come with it. Whom do you talk to? Should you tell anyone at all?
This will help:

1. Talk to God: For starters tell God what your problems are and trust Him for a solution. God is big enough to dissolve your issues into nothingness and give you peace over things of the past. In Christ there is no guilt and shame, no condemnation. Talk to God about your feelings and trust Him to take your pain and turn it into joy.

2 Don’t tell all to all: Do not run from person to person, rehearsing your problems, issues, failures and guilt. Where did we all get the idea that the more we talk about a problem, they better we feel? That is really not true. For starters, that is a sure way to perpetuate the problem. Secondly, you will hear all kinds of different opinions which will confuse you. Third, not everyone has your best interests at heart and some people may purposefully give you wrong advice.

3. Don’t tell nothing to no one: Do not stuff your stuff. Negative emotions buried alive only eat you up inside and come out in negative ways, affecting your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health. If you are in over your head, find a trusted person, who you look up to and talk to them. Everyone needs someone to talk to at certain points in their lives. Seeking help does not mean you are weak. Talking to someone does NOT mean talk to all and sundry.

…..to be continued……

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RAISING A GENIUS- Helping your child exercise their learning potential- part 2

Continuing from part 1:

4. Every opportunity is a teaching opportunity: Learning is not only limited to a classroom. “What shape is a stop sign?” I asked my daughter when she was 4. “Octagon”, came the reply. How did she know that? I had told her previously. Sometimes people ask me, “How do your children know this?” I teach them. I taught my 2 year old how to use a mouse. My husband taught our older daughter how to spell her name when she was three. On long drives we count all the way to 100, learn songs, recite ABCs and do mini “spelling bees”. We got a bean once and planted it in an old flower pot to see how things grow. It is not hard to teach children in a way that encourages a love of learning.

5. Encourage thinking outside the box: Encourage critical thinking. Ask questions and encourage them to ask questions too. When they stray off the beaten path ask yourself, is what they are doing unsafe for them or others? Is it destructive? Is it just wrong? If not, it’s ok to get dirty, it’s ok to tear up styrofoam, it’s ok to mix two colors of playdoh; it’s ok to color outside the lines; it’s ok to write in “robot letters”; it’s ok to put “Sharpie””make-up” on the doll’s face.

6. Study your children and follow your instincts: Some types of schooling work better for certain children. Some children learn more at daycare/ nursery than at home. Some are better off taught at home before the compulsory school years. Some children thrive in Montessori schools( I know mine wouldn’t). Some children need more structure( mine does). Some children are visual learners, some prefer to hear things recited. Use tools that appeal to your child the most. Do not bother about doing what everyone else is doing. You may choose public school, Christian schools, private schools, homeschooling. The point is if none of the schooling methods are wrong, you are free to choose what sits right with you.

7. Relax: Every child learns at their own pace. If your two year old is not reading yet, it’s ok! Work with them where they are. One thing which works for me is to remember that God gave me my children, but He also gave me to them! I realize that I have what it takes to help them reach their potential and ultimately fulfill their purpose.

He Cares

When life’s storms threaten to overwhelm you,
And you feel vulnerable and exposed;
When all your courage seems to fail you,
God’s eyes are not closed.

When you are confused with no one to turn to,
Remember that God is still there;
Just pray and put your trust in Him,
He will keep you in His care.

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RAISING A GENIUS- Helping your children exercise their learning potential

This is really not about geniuses at all, but about helping your little one be all they can be and develop a lifelong love for learning. Babies are not dumb little creatures, they are capable of absorbing vast amounts of information with ease. These tips apply mainly to babies and preschoolers, although there are applications in older children too.

1. Start early: Talk to your baby while he is in the womb. Sing to your baby, start reading to them before they are one year old. Do not talk to them in “baby talk” and it is ok to use so-called big words. If you speak two languages in your home speak them both to your child. As early as six months of age, start to name the parts of the body( except privates) during baby’s bath. Before the age of one get plastic ABCs( lower case) and show them to your baby, naming the letters. This should not be done as a task, but as part of play.

2. Exalt character above being smart: There is no use being a smart jerk. If your child grows up being rude and uncouth, because being smart was exalted above good character, you will be the loser. There are so many smart people who are arrogant. This is sad really. They have book smart, but no one ever trained them to be a good human being!

3. Read, read, read: Read to them! Read books yourself. Children mirror the behavior they see. Readers are learners and learning means growth. Read to your six month old. Read to your six year old. Buy interesting books. Read them the Bible. Apart from learning how to live a godly life, they will learn some big words too! 🙂 Start with reading the alphabet then graduate to books above your child’s so called reading grade. Remember this should be fun. Do not make a task of it or they will lose interest. If they don’t feel like reading a book one day it is ok and it won’t affect their chances of getting into Harvard later.

Watch out for the concluding segment

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