Woman Killers


As you probably know, or maybe not, breast cancer is not the number one killer of women in the United States of America. It is heart disease. With knowledge comes power, and I’m just going to talk about 5 things that increase ones risk for heart disease, as well as worsen heart disease if one already has it.(This applies to men too, by the way).

Smoking: Yep! The cancer sticks are not just cancer sticks; they are heart-attack-sticks and stroke-sticks as well! You have every reason to stop smoking. Call your local quit line; visit your doctor for nicotine patches, Chantix or Wellbutrin. Develop new habits. If you smoke when you eat, try a different activity after eating to break up the cycle. Wait ten minutes when you feel the urge to smoke. You can try cutting down on the cigarettes, by one cigarette, one day at a time. You might want to enlist the support of family members. Do whatever you need to do to quit!

Obesity: 70% of America is overweight or obese. Unfortunately with the food industry making a killing (literally) by feeding us to death, it is us against the “system”. Eat healthy. Yes, that means more fruits and vegetables, less starchy, sugary foods and less red meat. Exercise. Yes, that means some form of activity that you undertake for 30 minutes or more that makes you pant and sweat! “I once walked around the block looking at the scenery” doesn’t cut it. If you cannot do 30 minutes a day, start where you are. It is better to do 5 minutes a day (and build on that), than 0 minutes never! If you are extremely obese, talk to your doctor about weight loss supplements which are no substitute for a healthy diet and exercise.

Uncontrolled Hypertension: Both obesity and smoking increase your risk for hypertension or high blood pressure. Other risks are family history, salt intake, and alcohol abuse. Check your blood pressure at least once in 6 months. If you have hypertension, visit your doctor regularly to make sure it is under control with medications.

Uncontrolled Diabetes: High levels of sugar in the blood destroy nerves and blood vessels. Once the blood vessels of the heart start to get affected it leads to an increased risk for heart attacks and strokes. If you are diabetic your A1C should be below 7% (talk to you doctor about this). You need to exercise because in addition to helping you lose weight, exercise also helps your metabolism to become more efficient.

High cholesterol: High levels of cholesterol cause blood vessels to be clogged up, blocking blood flow to vital organs such as the heart and brain. Cholesterol can only be detected by a blood test. Ask your doctor about cholesterol monitoring and if you already have this you need to take your medication regularly to keep the cholesterol down.

Well here it is ladies (and gentlemen), 5 major contributors to heart disease. Eat healthy, exercise and make sure you visit you doctor regularly for your health concerns.


How To Enjoy Every Day Life

1. Slow down

2. Learn to say no, don’t say yes to everything

3. Know when you need to take a break and relax

4. Find enjoyment in what you do

5. Laugh

6. Find someone to bless/help/teach

7. Be thankful for the things you have

8. Be happy now, not “I would be happy if only I had……”

9. Do one different thing each day to break up the monotony of the day

10. Praise God at the beginning and at the end of each day.


Dominant Wife, Passive husband

Here is a man’s perspective on an interesting topic.
I have read something similar on Peacefulwife’s blog.
The bottom line is that ladies do have to allow their husbands to take the lead, and they will rise to the challenge. Men, don’t make it hard for your wives by behaving like a bowl of oatmeal!




The 3 A’s Of Marriage

This is a reblog. It is a few pointers from a speech I gave at a wedding recently.

1.Accept: You should be accepting of the other person. Never communicate to your spouse that they are in some way flawed, broken, or do not measure up. Acceptance does not mean being happy with your spouse’s flaws. It does mean however, that knowing those flaws, you choose to be patient with your spouse as he or she works on becoming a better person.

2.Adjust: In marriage you have to adjust to living with another person, their wants, needs and desires; their flaws and foibles, their habits. Do they drop their socks on the floor? No problem! Pick them up, step over them,or drop yours on the floor too! *Insert laughter here*. Do they squeeze the toothpaste from the middle? Again,no problem! Join them, rearrange the toothpaste tube after them or buy another tube of toothpaste. I hear you ask, what about the serious stuff? Read my post on communication. You still have to adjust to the fact that what you see as serious as a heart attack may not be that serious to your spouse and vice versa. Adjustment means to learn the other persons communication styles and respond accordingly. People run into problems when they take an attitude of I don’t have to adjust, I am who I am etc. This does not work in the real world of marriage. Sometimes you have to do things just to keep the other person happy!

3.Allow: Make allowances. No one is perfect, therefore no marriage is perfect. Make allowance for the PMS, and the had-a-bad-day-at-work; and the had-a-bad-day-at-home; and the burnt dinner; and the fall-asleep-during-foreplay; and the I-forgot-my-keys(again). Each spouse needs to make allowances for the other person’s not so stellar times.

Hope this helps someone!




Shola ministers in spoken word


This is a great post ladies!


The following poem was written by me over 15 years ago when romantic poetry was all the poetry I ever wrote. If it seems simple, childish even…..well let’s just say that 15 years ago I was but a child.


Let me call you sweetheart,
I love you so much, you see;
Will you be my sweetheart?
You mean so much to me.

Let me stay by your side,
I will never go away;
I will be yours to cherish,
From now till the end of our days.

I’ll be with you in sorrow,
If you let me share your pain;
Even if your world turns upside down,
My love will never wane.

In happy times I’ll be there,
Sharing a laugh with you;
Sweetheart, love, my best friend,
I’m so in love with you

All I ask is devotion,
A measure of loving care;
As much as I give to you,
With each passing year.

A loving smile at break fast,
A warm embrace at noon;
A butterfly kiss at eventide,
Good loving at sundown.


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